Welcome Pilgrim!
You are already on the road to fulfillment, completion, and joy.
How do I know this?
In a way, you and I are alone here together. We are intimately comparing our thoughts, ideas, disappointments, distortions, and confusion.
Though it probably doesn't feel like it yet, this is the beginning of a new relationship...
One where you know yourself, your needs, and discover and honor your dreams.
You allow all this to be known not only to yourself, but to your chosen partner.
You are working towards true intimacy.
A precious goal, and attainable.
Enjoy the journey.
A number of years ago, I was faced with this realization. I'd met most of my life goals, and I was progressing towards the others. I was winding down and enjoying the rewards of success and achievement. I was quite comfortable in my second marriage and thought it would last forever.
I sensed that this was "as good as it gets," and realized that it wasn't enough! I felt trapped and nothing made sense. Like most of you, dear readers, I asked myself the same questions: "Where did I go wrong? When did I zig when I should have zagged?"
Then it happened-my quintessential cathartic out-of-body experience which raised all the questions I am going to ask you in this book. Together, we will consider the truths of love. In Chapter One of Avoiding Capture, I'll share my soul-searing experience and we can compare notes on the right questions to ask to get the deeper answers.
Being captured and harmfully surrendering in love is not gender based. It is a common human experience. Avoiding Capture says is that if your life doesn't feel good and you aren't where you want to be at this moment, examining your own truths and the quality of your relationships is worth the risk.
David Oshman, M.Ed., is a much sought after relationship lecturer and trainer. A true pioneer and respected visionary. Well known for his combination of practical wisdom and ability to connect the improvement of relationships and intimacy with spiritual development, wholeness, self-awareness and acceptance, and, ultimately, true personal fulfillment. He is dedicated to assisting others in their quest for self-improvement and personal development, and a more meaningful life.
He demonstrates by his own example the means of finding peace, joy and balance within one's self, and then reflected in the quality of one's relationships. His message of hope and enthusiasm, coupled with a sly humor, is relevant and applicable to ALL persons, regardless of age and stage of life.
Each year Mr. Oshman receives multitudes of invitations to speak at conferences, colleges, workshops, and gatherings around the globe. He is, and will continue to be, a truly unique and valuable resource serving people throughout the region, and the world. As our relationships get better, so does the world!
He recently moved to the Upper East Side in Manhattan with his famous Black Standard Poodle, Winston the Super Dog! He is an Active Aux. Police Officer for the NYPD, an active Real Estate Broker, Psychotherapist, Personal Trainer, and a practicing Buddhist (yes, a true enigma of this century). Enlightend, crazy, or just a fool? Meet him and find out for yourself!
Light bleeds into darkness,
Claiming space once holy and still.
Boasting triumph...
Yet a battle that never needed to be fought.
Sound violates silence.
An absurdly powerful lion shamelessly devours
A princely lamb
For fear of hunger.
Substance mocks emptiness, foolishly believing
There is a reason,
When truly...
There is none.
Everywhere are meaningless dramas which
Lure the soul
Into a space
Much much too small.
Answers annihilate questions,
Suffocating them,
Without regard for human dignity
Or divine purpose.
Order imprisons chaos,
Devoid of pity and
Without chance for reprieve.
The jailer gloats grotesquely.
My heart rebels...
And is sometimes joined
By fellow conspirators!
We are whimsical children
Playing happily and contently
On a train track
Believing the train will never come...
But it does.
Innocently wrong.
Supremely wise but for a moment.
That moment is a lifetime
Creates purpose, and makes all right.
